Types / Five pillars / Relationships
One part of life
Relationships
The people closest to you—family, friends, a partner, or chosen family
What Relationships covers
Relationships covers the people who provide closeness, care, companionship, and belonging in everyday life. That can include family, friends, a partner, or chosen family. It belongs in this check-in because connection is one of the five areas in Carl Jung’s view of a happy life, shared in a 1960 newspaper interview. It’s one person’s view, not a proven recipe, so the check-in leaves room for different kinds of relationships and different needs for connection.
The questions ask how often someone gets the social and emotional support they need and how often they feel lonely. They also ask how satisfied someone is with this part and how much it matters. The support question comes from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The satisfaction and importance questions were written for this site and haven’t been validated. Together, they describe the felt availability of connection and its place in someone’s life.
What it leaves out
This doesn’t look at how you love or how you get along with people. It asks how supported and connected you feel. Someone can have frequent contact and still feel alone; someone else can have a small circle and feel deeply connected.
Where the questions come from
For Relationships, each card below gives the credit for the questions that organization asks, printed word for word.
U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)
Healthy Days and social support questions from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. CDC does not endorse Nomigram.
Nomigram
Our own questions. They haven’t been validated yet.
None of the organizations named here endorses this site or its check-in.
The other four parts
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Health
Your body and mind, and how they’ve been doing lately
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Beauty
Art, music, and nature—and how much of them reaches your life
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Money and work
A reasonable standard of living, and work that satisfies you—paid or unpaid
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Outlook on life
A way of seeing life, religious or not, that helps you through hard times
Make room for a closer look
51 questions give each part its own place, including the distance between what matters and how life is going.
Questions
Is there one overall score?
No, on purpose. Each part is shown on its own, and how much something matters is never multiplied by or added to how it’s going. The Office for National Statistics says even its own four questions must not be added together.
Should someone take it more than once?
Yes, that’s what it is for. It reads a moment, so the same questions a few months later can show what moved. A retake within a year asks 41 questions instead of 51, because the 10 statements about art and beauty are asked once a year.
Which questions are ours?
Most questions come from a government survey or a published scale, and they’re used word for word. The satisfaction and importance questions are ours, as are the outlook questions, and they’re marked wherever their answers show because they haven’t been validated. That’s the difference between an established measure and an experiment.